Day 70 - Hosting

Day 70 - Hosting

Even in a snow storm we hosted 20+ people for our recent clubhouse. I'm going to write my blog today on why/how this works and my intention for wayyyy more of these to happen

We host a lot of events. The purpose of these events is to bring people together who WANT to be their best selves, and to help us all collectively become our best

The events are fun, they are dynamic, we have deep conversations and intentionally create a space where people can have breakthroughs and make new commitments to how they will live

Over 5 years of doing this, my wife and I (and the core people who help host) have learned a lot

and for you reading this blog, you know part of your legacy is going to be hosting phenomenal events that have the same exact purpose 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist creating events and hosting events

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate the word event with the words chaos and stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe in the 'introvert extrovert' paradigm and use it as a limitation for my self expression

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to fear hosting events, of who will show up? If its 'not enough' then I believe people will judge me, and if it's 'too many' then I will be overwhelmed... thus it would be easier to just not do it and delay it to a future that will never happen

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that many of the biggest moments in my life, specifically with 'doors that open' have come from people I've met at events in person

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to 'default' within myself to looking at the negative and the challenging parts of hosting events, instead of seeing the event as a living commitment to change myself and change the world - simply for what it is - its people coming together to change and grow

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that as a host of the event I have a responsibility to the people, to show up and having done the work on myself within my self honesty, because when others are within your physical presence they do pick up on things unconsciously. So if there are areas out of integrity within my life --- the events are a great way to act as a catalyst to 'clean up one's own life' so that one can stand in integrity and be an authority to support others to also change

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that events without a clear intentional purpose - the purpose becomes a giant 'energy fest' where people want to act crazy, potentiallly drink, cause drama, gossip, etc and the event then becomes abusive - whereas based on my commitment to the living principles the events I host are intentionally designed to awaken one's BEING, not to be an energy jack-up session

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to play small and not do the right inputs to fuel the right people coming through the door at the event, that I had been lazy to think 'oh my events are just so great that people will show up' and then many times face the reality that it does take promotion to get people in the door - yet over time there is a magnetic pull that grows as we get more and more people who are in resonant alignment/subconscious coordination - yet even then the physical inputs of inviting people and curating the audience is needed

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that events are not just 'nice to do' but they are essential - as human beings ARE social creatures. There are the studies that kids would die if they didn't get physical touch. Yet in today's day and age people forget this, that you need to get out, to shake peoples hands, to hug people, to share a meal, to connect, to be uncomfortable, to laugh together, to ask questions and really bond with one's fellow human. Let's magnify this in our world WITHIN the starting point of principle

I realize that events have shaped me into becoming the best I can be, it is a forcing function to help me level up, to 'walk the talk' so to speak, to constantly improve my life and become more effective so I can be a role model for others

I realize that events based on living principles are the only events that will be life-giving, where all others become draining and exhaustive because its an energy-mining fest

I realize that the Self-Perfected Clubhouses is a core backbone to events around the world, and there are many other events I host and have connections to that I can recommend to people to be a constant impulse for people to get out of their home, go talk and go share and connect because you can meet the people who forever change the trajectory of your life at these events

I commit myself to use the commitments as a way to ground the events, for example at the end of each of my events recently I am asking people - what were your biggest insights AND what is your commitment before I see you again? 

Because insight can be misleading - it feels good in the moment but unless its grounded in a living commitment of change, it is a distraction and then the event/communication/conversations were all for naught because the change wasn't lived

I commit myself to be the best I can be within my location point within my local community, the international community that I am part of, and to help more and more events be hosted that create outcomes that are best for all