Day 64 - What Does it Mean to Be a Man?

Day 64 - Be a Man

I have had this conversation with many men recently - what does it mean to be a man?

What does a man do? 

What does a man NOT do?

One of the guys in particular is quite young, he is 18 and we were speaking about this because he shares a vision where one day he will have a wife, kids, would like a homestead, genuinely wants to make a difference in the world. 

He brought up how when he was a kid he was very expressive, he would show his emotions, he would be loud, and the adults around him would say comments like 'that's not how a boy/man should act'. He asked me what is my perspective on this.

I told him that expressiveness has nothing to do with being an effective man or not

To be clear - by expressive I mean:

The ability to get 'out' what you have on the inside, the ability to articulate who you are, your thoughts, words, ideas, vision, and to get that out 'unimpeded'

Its the OPPOSITE of being suppressed, in your head, holding back, hesitant.

Expressiveness is a great trait, and everyone should have this. Not everyone has the right tools to be able to change this because it has to do with physical programming in the body, but that's for another post.

Ultimately I told him - his expression can come through and its a great trait he has IF he is living these 2 words

1 - Provide

2 - Protect

And I don't mean this in the 'system' sense where one just tries to provide money for ones family at all costs. I've seen people around me do this and its disgusting, they get into selling shit programs, selling people on fantasies of how much money they can make, all backed up by nothing real. Its done as a 'win at all costs' strategy, just so they can help themselves and their families be provided for. That is NOT what I mean by provide

and for Protect - I have also seen this in a twisted form. Where one becomes so obsessed with protecting themselves and their family. They will learn martial arts, self defense, they will go all out with an obsession to 'stay alive' and 'survive' but it clouds the bigger picture of what it means to protect humanity as a whole, from ourselves and from our consequence.

So when I say a MAN is one who can provide and protect, I mean this in its ultimate form/expression

One who can provide and care for themselves, their family AND the world - a win-win-win

And one who can protect - themselves, their family AND the world/future generations to come.

So day 65 will be the self-forgiveness on this to elaborate on what makes sense and to dismantle the stupid ass ideas we got from hollywood and thousands of generations of programming that was just based on self-interest and survive at all costs, which has created a world where we can't trust our neighbor, where we poison the environment and the average person is a brainwashed consumer zombie slave.

A real man will step up and change this. Read on to the next day to reprogram yourself to comprehend this