Day 71 - The Spark of Life

Day 71 The Spark of Life

Want an obvious example of the spark of life? Look at a child

What is it that 'motivates' them? Its not fear, its not desire, its a fundamental essence of them as life moving themselves, because they're alive, they love themselves, they want to do things and enjoy

That is the spark of life and its in all of us

But we suppress it -- hard

So lets re-activate it, see it and spread it. As the world needs it now more than ever before

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to make the 'spark of life' analogy something mental instead of a physical realization of beingness

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize this spark of life is within every human, and even if its twisted and contorted and suppressed, its there under everything until the dying breath when it leaves the body

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to make the 'spark of life' into something more in my mind, trying to take that reality of physical energy within my body, and make it into a mental energy projection where my mind goes into a character of 'specialness' and separation, thinking I am then 'more' than life instead of realizing my equality as the physical, as a being, as a body, as my mind, as an amalgamation of all as oneness and equality - the fact that that is what I am truly - I had missed this, until here no further

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize this spark of life is the purest form of motivation, and within this I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to throughout my life create alternative sources of energy from fear, pressure, chaos, that I had used as a form of 'energy' to move myself to take action 

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe this spark of life has to be 'mental energy' from the mind consciousness system, its not - its a living physical energy expression that powers the body synonymous with self will and movement, its a living presence that is life-giving

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that as I walk this process of the journey to life, as I effectively forgive myself, the energies I used to motivate myself like the fear of survival, that this energy dissipates, and then I am 'stuck in the mud' as a human because I have used these energies to motivate me, and now they're removed, now I am stuck with ME, and as me I must find that spark within myself to now create from a starting point of CREATION as SELF WILL, which comes from this life spark within me. Its a point of creation, breath and focus to now will myself consistently as life to act and create, where this is the purest form of my self expression yet its like using a muscle that had atrophied, it will take time and effort to create this as my baseline

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe its easier to be motivated by the energy of fear of survival, where this electrifies my body where I get out of bed, I move myself, I am barely breathing, I am rushing and its so intense that I just whip myself into shape and do my 'role' in the system meanwhile making ZERO difference in the world and actually perpetuating the old system...

I commit myself to show that as the spark of life, and cultivating this spark, as the real source of motivation as self movement - that this is the real standing up of me as a being - and this is the way to create the new system of the world that can be best for all. Any change to the system that comes from the outside first as 'top down' will inevitably not work, because its not coming from self as self-will as the spark of life integrated into the change, and thus the 'outside' forces end up creating a time loop again and again, hence why no government programs or 'revolutions' or 'motivational seminars' do anything to fundamentally change the system or change our lives, because its not coming from self

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the spark within me is always there, under the programs, which can be forgiven thoroughly, and after consistent effort forgiving myself, living the new commitments, and rebuilding my programming to be aligned with my best expression as life - this spark within me can spread, as it is the source of all potentials and possibilities as life itself in equality and oneness and so I commit myself to spread this spark, to support the activation and spreading of the spark in others, to turn into a wildfire that spreads through the world where all the living beings can step up and create together. 

I commit myself to identify any memories of where I gave up on my self-will, to forgive them thoroughly and to commit myself to living my self-will fully, as the self-will is the spark of life within and thus the forgiveness of these memories and the commitment to new action allows for me real time to thus create from the starting point of HERE instead of repeating the past of failure and abdication of responsibility

I commit myself to notice the spark of life within me and to cultivate it into a powerful force that comes through in my thoughts, words and deeds, where its the constant expansion of the principle of life as what's best for all, and this is inherently a sharing, a spreading, and a responsibility inherent within this way of living

I commit myself to bring about the circumstances where I can help others activate the spark within them, through creating environments, conversations, activities where we can come together and they can see the common sense of life expansion, and within this I commit myself to get the tools of change to everyone so they can sustain this spark of life, because just having a spark of life, but without the ongoing ability to do self-forgiveness, and without the ability to rebuild every single word of one's vocabulary/programming, the spark of life will be suppressed again and again.. So this is my living commitment and in each breath is the potential and possibilities I will stand as to spread the spark of life into a wildfire that covers the world

Day 70 - Hosting

Day 70 - Hosting

Even in a snow storm we hosted 20+ people for our recent clubhouse. I'm going to write my blog today on why/how this works and my intention for wayyyy more of these to happen

We host a lot of events. The purpose of these events is to bring people together who WANT to be their best selves, and to help us all collectively become our best

The events are fun, they are dynamic, we have deep conversations and intentionally create a space where people can have breakthroughs and make new commitments to how they will live

Over 5 years of doing this, my wife and I (and the core people who help host) have learned a lot

and for you reading this blog, you know part of your legacy is going to be hosting phenomenal events that have the same exact purpose 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist creating events and hosting events

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate the word event with the words chaos and stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe in the 'introvert extrovert' paradigm and use it as a limitation for my self expression

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to fear hosting events, of who will show up? If its 'not enough' then I believe people will judge me, and if it's 'too many' then I will be overwhelmed... thus it would be easier to just not do it and delay it to a future that will never happen

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that many of the biggest moments in my life, specifically with 'doors that open' have come from people I've met at events in person

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to 'default' within myself to looking at the negative and the challenging parts of hosting events, instead of seeing the event as a living commitment to change myself and change the world - simply for what it is - its people coming together to change and grow

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that as a host of the event I have a responsibility to the people, to show up and having done the work on myself within my self honesty, because when others are within your physical presence they do pick up on things unconsciously. So if there are areas out of integrity within my life --- the events are a great way to act as a catalyst to 'clean up one's own life' so that one can stand in integrity and be an authority to support others to also change

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that events without a clear intentional purpose - the purpose becomes a giant 'energy fest' where people want to act crazy, potentiallly drink, cause drama, gossip, etc and the event then becomes abusive - whereas based on my commitment to the living principles the events I host are intentionally designed to awaken one's BEING, not to be an energy jack-up session

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to play small and not do the right inputs to fuel the right people coming through the door at the event, that I had been lazy to think 'oh my events are just so great that people will show up' and then many times face the reality that it does take promotion to get people in the door - yet over time there is a magnetic pull that grows as we get more and more people who are in resonant alignment/subconscious coordination - yet even then the physical inputs of inviting people and curating the audience is needed

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that events are not just 'nice to do' but they are essential - as human beings ARE social creatures. There are the studies that kids would die if they didn't get physical touch. Yet in today's day and age people forget this, that you need to get out, to shake peoples hands, to hug people, to share a meal, to connect, to be uncomfortable, to laugh together, to ask questions and really bond with one's fellow human. Let's magnify this in our world WITHIN the starting point of principle

I realize that events have shaped me into becoming the best I can be, it is a forcing function to help me level up, to 'walk the talk' so to speak, to constantly improve my life and become more effective so I can be a role model for others

I realize that events based on living principles are the only events that will be life-giving, where all others become draining and exhaustive because its an energy-mining fest

I realize that the Self-Perfected Clubhouses is a core backbone to events around the world, and there are many other events I host and have connections to that I can recommend to people to be a constant impulse for people to get out of their home, go talk and go share and connect because you can meet the people who forever change the trajectory of your life at these events

I commit myself to use the commitments as a way to ground the events, for example at the end of each of my events recently I am asking people - what were your biggest insights AND what is your commitment before I see you again? 

Because insight can be misleading - it feels good in the moment but unless its grounded in a living commitment of change, it is a distraction and then the event/communication/conversations were all for naught because the change wasn't lived

I commit myself to be the best I can be within my location point within my local community, the international community that I am part of, and to help more and more events be hosted that create outcomes that are best for all

Day 69 - The Playfulness Hack

Day 69 - The Playfulness Hack

This one is life changing when you realize it for yourself

I have noticed my wife Jessica and I our relationship has changed already from applying this

So I'll write this in the context of your relationship with your significant other, but it can be extrapolated out to any relationship

Last week on Friday night we were on the Self-Perfected Hangout. On the calls I have a responsibility to help share and connect with people as I'm one of the co-founders of the group.

Also though - its at the end of the day, my kids want to see me. Every time I go in the kitchen my son Xander wants to be picked up.

So I'll be on the zoom call, super focused, then I walk in to get water or some food and then he's crying and wants me to pick him up.

So I noticed in that moment I pick him up, I'm distracted, I can't really support him in that moment. So I walk up to Jessica and said 'you gotta take him'

I said it in a tone that was direct, it was also from a point of 'you do it, I'm not gonna 'deal with this' right now' that kind of vibe

And she was in the middle of unloading the dishwasher, so she didn't reply right away.

I was impatient so I said again - 'Hey Jess I need you to confirm that you can take him I'm on the call'... and after what to ME felt like forever, and to Jess was the next moment, she said yeah sure I can take him

I noticed a reaction in me, this whole character of 'You gotta reply faster to me! Can't you see i'm doing something important? He is our son, I can't nurture him right now, you should listen to me' That was the whole 'inner backchat' character lol

And later, Jessica and I discussed it, where from her perspective she was thinking 'yeah I heard you, I just had to put the dishes away, but also that tone you used was not fun at all it was like you just wanted to pass him off to me, so I wasn't fully thrilled to just drop what I was doing - that I know is also important.'

So in that moment we both decided that there is a WAYYYYYY better way to do this. Shout out Jess she came up with it

She said 'well what if you in that moment you need to pass him off.... what if you said something like Hey sexy mama, I have this handsome boy that needs some care and attention, incoming!! and then playfully pass him over to me? 

That way its fun for her, our son Xander will think its awesome, and for ME as the man, its a chance for me to be flexible instead of so stern and thinking 'I need to just get this over with so I can do my more 'important' stuff' lol

So we implemented it right away

And the results have been wonderful

The first time it was a similar situation, and within myself I was about to just hand him off and then I remember - oh yeah make it playful and I said something like 'I have a handsome boy here who needs a beautiful mom to hold him! Here he is' and I said it in a playful voice, it was awesome. Jess literally said 'wowwww!!! yes come here!'

She said 'its like you put a spell on me and I couldn't escape' 

Now of course we're playing... but this is the power of words and expression

So we named it the Playfulness Hack

And we notice other times in our day where there's something either mundane, or something that is more 'serious' like we must talk about planning how we clean up our property to prepare for winter

And in these moments we sometimes have memories accumulated, like last year we left out some of our garden supplies/rakes/shovels and they got ruined over winter. And so its this 'point' of contention where we had neglected our responsibilities in the past, judged ourselves over it, and then now its a point of where we can break through the 'time loop' and not do the same thing again.

So Jess brings this up to me, and there's a little bit of contention in it, she wants to convey that its serious - which I agree with. But for me, at 10 pm at night after I've had a 'long day' and I am almost asleep, my 'mind' defaults to - Jess lets just talk about it later when we can do something about it.

Those little moments - where its important, it matters to come to a solution, and there's an energetic charge to it, and there's 2 differing view points... this is a tinder-box that in any other relationship can explode into a fight

But in that moment, because Jess and I have done so much work on ourselves, and we're united in agreement/principle, it was a fun moment where we both caught it, we started laughing. We are like 'ok wow look at us getting all serious about the fact our shovels were buried under the leaves and it started to snow. 

Yes its still an important matter... but the playfulness hack is what actually will get us to resolve it.. not just being all 'serious' about it because it drains the fun, it turns it into an activity thats not life giving, and we just treat it like necessary responsibility drudgery.

So the playfulness hack is this = in the moment where you want to be serious and get a point across to your partner, be flexible in your expression, say it in a new way, have fun with it. Still get the point across - but in this way it actually lands and inspires action, and it becomes a fun 'level up' in your relationship that opens up entirely new dynamics.

Test it out today

Day 68 - Dad Life

My son has hit the level where he can properly interact with me. He can hold a conversation and say things that are thought provoking for me.

For example we drove to the store and he was asking me what is an avenue and what is a street. What's the difference. Why is it named 'Texas Avenue'?

I realized in that moment how grateful I am for my life, for my wife, for us using TechnoTutor with him so he has such an extensive vocabulary at age 3. So much goodness has come into my life and I need to share this with more people

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to hold back in sharing these tools of self forgiveness and TechnoTutor with more people

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to take the fact that some times people don't want to use these tools, and with the fact of sometimes being rejected in my sharing, to extrapolate that onto future conversations I have

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that as I am living dad life, this great gift is a series of moments, and to not rush the perfection of this

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to create a pattern within myself of thinking 'some day in the future' that something will be different, and thus I 'look forward' to that day at the expense of the moment

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize that every single parent can get on board with this philosophy, of raising genius kids, they just need to be explained this in a way that the story 'clicks' for them

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not push harder with people, to really live the word CARE, and say what needs to be said, so that if I were the kid, of the parent that I speak with, that kid has a chance to experience an outstanding childhood through being able to develop rapidly, to have a full extensive vocabulary, a superior memory and the ability and confidence to learn anything

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to define 'dad life' as my pre-programmed memories of what my childhood and my dad was like, and while I did have a great childhood, I didn't have a fully effective education - and now I see/realize and understand that a fully effective education for a dad and their kid IS what dad life is really about

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that within 'dad life' is the word LIFE, the living principle that is within everything - and to be a living example as a dad as life, this is who I am and who I can be a catalyst for - all of the dads here and now, and the dads to come in the future, to show a new level of whats possible

I realize that 'dad life' has been corrupted by our culture to be a limited word instead of a living word

I realize that an essential piece of my purpose is to show what LIFE looks like as a dad and to pull in as many dads as possible to share this realization

I realize that the little moments of speaking with my son, of explaining the world to him, all of this is building the inner architecture of my son and his worldview where he will be able to influence reality at an even greater level than me - as he progresses in his life

I realize that any dad out there who cares about their kids, will be open minded enough to hear me out, and I must do everything in my power to get in front of them and share this

I commit myself to do every thing in my power to share what Dad Life can be

I commit myself to enjoy the journey of dad life, enjoyment meaning a full focus and expression of being a dad, being a living example, and supporting my son to be the best he can be, which includes being an example and sharing with others of what's possible for kids

I commit myself to showcase the other dads and kids in our community to show what's possible

I commit myself to outpace the AI/automation virus that is spreading in our world, where people see AI as a god, when its not, its a reflection of our minds... Yet AI is not that great. What is great is a Human Being with an effective vocabulary and living principles, THIS is the real trend that matters, that I commit myself to get out to the world and make it obvious that this form of parenting and raising kids is superior to the AI trend we see now. Genius children working together as life within the principle of oneness and equality, this is the real deal. This is my living commitment

Day 67 - The Rite of Passage

Day 67 - The Rite of Passage

Read the self forgiveness out loud 

Yesterday I forgot to add - and it fits in perfectly...

As a boy becomes a man, there is a decision they make as to who they are, who they will be and how they will act.

And upon the decision being made, life will then reformat itself in accordance with this new decision and intention. And within this - situations will arise that can appear like a test, to see if you will walk through it or if you will fall and go back to 'boyhood' ignorance.

A man will WELCOME the test.

(and this is really for anyone, man or woman, but yesterday I was specifically writing about men being 'raised up' will need to make the decision that they will live from a new code of conduct and welcome the test to thus prove they will live it)

And so this is the brief story of how I had to use a cinderblock to decapitate a rooster yesterday.

Interesting enough... the point on being kind vs. being nice.

An example I often give when asked about 'kind vs. nice' is if you have an injured animal you know is gonna die. What is the kind thing to do? 

The 'nice' person lets it suffer. They cower/hesitate/avoid. The 'kind' thing is to face the point and put it out of its misery.

So I walked out in the evening to do the chicken chores, and I notice one of my roosters looked dead on the ground. Looks like he defended the hens from a predator, which I am grateful for.

I go up to him with a shovel to pick him up and toss him in the back woods.

I notice in that moment he is still flinching.

I think 'damn... I gotta take this guy out'

For a moment I contemplate how to do it. I got a shovel, I have my gun in the house.. I decide the best move is I have a cinder block right there, so I do it swiftly. 

That moment was not pleasant. But if I were that rooster, and I were there in agony, I would want a swift exit like what I delivered. 

And that is an example of me doing the kind thing.

It was an example of me as who I have become, a man that wasn't raised to do this sort of thing, but this is who I have built myself to be. 

I've learned to build myself from scratch, one moment at a time, the little decisions accumulate. 

And I've engineered an environment around me with our homestead and our local responsibilities - the best environment, where I have tests every day.

And to be clear - I see some people abuse the idea of 'tests', they constantly feel like they need to prove they can 'pass a test'. That is idiotic. I am referring to the fact that when a decision is made truly, the world reshapes around this, its resonance and intention. So AS this new decision, I will walk it thoroughly, and if I need to prove something, such as that I will do the kind thing even if its unpleasant or inconvenient, of course I'll prove it and do it.

Homestead living has shown me that, there will be tests all over. Who will I be in the test? - this is what matters.

Now of course ideally that wouldn't have happened, where I had to kill the rooster - but that coyote or fox also has to eat and it came after our flock. 

So there's a common sense equilibrium here that has to be reached. 

My goal is minimize suffering and ensure the animals can thrive for as long as they live, and to also live my life in a way where I can make the maximum impact in the collective world system, because my job is not to sit and watch my chickens all day. 

Being a man is being able to see all of this and make decisions.

For me as a kid - I was not raised to understand responsibility fully. I didn't have the vocabulary and comprehension to see the value of this for myself. Not blaming my parents, it literally wasn't possible without the tools. 

I wish I had a 'rite of passage' of some sort. But this is something I have had to gift to myself over and over. The living of my decision to be a man, and as a result of this decision, the opportunities arise where I will have the test, and thus I can prove I can pass the test.

And this leads me into my blog which is the rite of passage

I'm just gonna go in on the self-forgiveness as this is needed:

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize the rite of passage is essential for a man to walk through - its essential because at a certain point one must decide for oneself who one will be - its a decision one makes and as any real decision it will be tested in reality

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize the word passage is the passing from one state to another, the previous state is who one was born as and the programming given to them, yet on an individual level one must decide who they will be

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe that a 'rite of passage' must be some 'big deal' like in cultures where the boy must go do a difficult task or go on a quest. In reality the rite = right, comes from the same root as the word right meaning to take something that is incorrect and make it correct - this is the journey to life one must undertake as themselves, for themselves and for all 

And passage is a passing from one state to another. So this ultimately is the transition from being a consciousness robot, programmed from the environment, to taking the decision to stand as a set of principles. 

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to fantasize about a 'rite of passage' needing to be a high energy experience, like the ancient mystery schools or the rituals in a secret society, thinking that one must have an initiation and get all the 'secrets' - in reality what is needed is the decision to change, the tools to sustain the change, and the verification of the change so one can truly be a +1 to society

I commit myself to create the change in the culture so the rite of passage is adopted, where each young adult can be aware of this process, to go from being a programmed human that has accepted their worldview, to a conscious decision to be a creator, to be aligned with the principles 

I commit myself to within myself welcome the tests, to enjoy the tests, as each time I make a decision to take on more responsibility I will prove to myself what I can handle

I commit myself to change the culture to one of honor and respect where the respect is based in the living principles, the rite of passage is for a boy to prove himself as a man where he honors and lives in a verifiable way - that he lives the principles

I commit myself to do my best to make everything right, meaning the best it can be, and to stop at nothing 

Day 66 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man? (Part 3 - Conclusion)

Day 66 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man? (Part 3 - Conclusion)

Upon the past 2 days of writing on 'what it means to be a man' I had a few more insights to bring this point to completion

I am part of a men's group called the Self-Leaders Club and we have a mastermind discussion every 2 weeks. 

If you are a man who wants to be held to a higher standard, to be a leader in the world and bring about the change we need, hit me up I'll teach you how you can join.

On this discussion I got feedback the past 2 blogs helped a lot of the guys

Also as I heard this, it became evident there are 3 other points to bring through, and I will give context for each

1 - Niceness is a disease, Kindness is the cure

2 - A real man honors their agreements that are built on principle

3 - Self-Trust as equals is what emerges as the backbone of the new world

Now point by point

1 - Niceness is a disease, Kindness is the cure

Yesterday I was at our local mastermind group. My colleague Pedro and I have run this group for 5+ years. He does an excellent job running the main discussion and we utilize the group as a way to unite the people who want to change their lives, and align their 'success' with real purpose

In the discussion, Pedro was bringing through the 'cost' of being nice, of avoiding conflict, of not actually confronting the things in your life.

He asked a question that made me stop and ponder ... and I've been looking at it all weekend. He asked 'what has your niceness cost you'?

I was raised to 'be nice'.

I am from Minnesota, where we literally have a phrase called 'Minnesota Nice' its where people are pleasant, even if it means they'll be in silent despair, but they'll say 'hey I'm doing great'.

What I realized is that niceness has cost me massively. Not just money (even though I would likely have made over $1M more at least in my journey as an entrepreneur if I had been more direct) but really it has cost me relationships, where I would not actually SERVE the person by telling them the KIND thing.

For example = nice is when you don't tell someone they have bad breath. Kind is when you call it out (with tact and candor of course, because you actually care about the outcome, not just making the other person react)

So as I had been reflecting on this over the weekend, the phrase popped in my mind. Nice is a disease. Kindness is the cure.

Niceness is caring more about your own feelings and how you are perceived... where KINDNESS is the cure - meaning it is the word that when it is LIVED - you can support others for real, unconditionally

And thus the living commitment emerged in me of Kindness - at a whole new level. And the realization that a MAN is KIND. A boy will hide behind 'being nice' to play a charade. Fuck that. Its selfish and against what I stand for.

I can be respectful, and help the other person actually change - by being KIND and saying what needs to be said. Because if I were the other, that's what I would want.

Thus - a Man is Kind.

Point 2 - A real man honors their agreements that are built on principle

I heard the phrase today from my other colleague Borys, on our Self-Leaders call, quoting our other colleague Avery with the true statement that - a boy can only turn into a man when they are in a committed partnership.

I agree 100%

It may hurt, but hey - refer to point 1 about kindness.

If you are a single guy, you can only go so far alone, and you can only go so far by 'dating around' and being a playboy. You don't have anything REAL to commit to long term.

I have noticed with my wife, since being married and having our relationship built on agreement of principle that there is an intimacy that develops, where you have trust, you can share feedback faster, you can learn and iterate faster, and you build together. It allows you to see your own bullshit faster, and is a practice ground for HOW you will show up in the world.

So thus point 2 - a MAN honors his agreements. And in order to have that, you need the agreement in order to honor it

This is backed up by yet another point I saw this weekend, I was listening to a podcast on John D. Rockefeller. I do not look 'up' to this man, but I see he was an effective entrepreneur in the system and I do live by the principle of 'investigate all and keep what is best'.

Rockefeller said that the measure of a true man is one who honors his contracts/covenants.

There is something to this that we had lost in the modern world.

Now days where people can post bullshit online, leave some rage bait comments, talk shit online, there is a lack of HONOR in our culture. This creeps in where now people make commitments and don't honor them.

We say 'i'll be at the party' and then don't even show up, or even TEXT to say 'hey I can't make it'.

We have lost the value of our word

And that is detrimental to society and each of us.

Because think about it - if I make an agreement with my friend, or even with myself to say - I will be at the gym tomorrow at 9 am. Then I don't show up... I literally broke my word, my bond, my agreement.

Then at the same time I could say something like 'this year I will make $1M in my business'. 

On a resonant level, and even on a conscious level, how the fuck am I supposed to be able to take that goal seriously when I can't even get to the gym on time?

And don't even get me started on showing up late. Its so normal for our culture to say 'I will be there at 1 pm. Then show up late. Not even acknowledge it. This corrodes self-trust and trust between us...

So - A real man will honor their agreements.

Point 3 - 3 - Self-Trust as equals is what emerges as the backbone of the new world

Let's look at the word backbone - 

We are all each individual parts of our collective body/being as humanity

For example - imagine my heart didn't trust my brain, didn't trust my liver to 'do its thing'. I would be dead fast.

There is a mutual trust that must emerge.  But it doesn't come from 'blindly' trusting another

It comes from each of us trusting ourselves, having our operating principles, and then over time accumulating trust, and all of the benefits of this.

When a man does each of these (from my blog yesterday and today)

- Provides in the best way

- Protects in the best way

- Is KIND and doesn't succumb to niceness

- Honors his agreements, based in principle (specifically these principles, not the ray dalio bullshit system principles)

- And develops self-trust

This is a man.

This is a man I will be able to work with, to walk side by side, as we create the backbone of the new world. 

We are the skeleton/structure/foundation of the world.

Imagine the MAN/MASCULINE is the structure of the home. We keep what's inside safe. We weather any storm. We are always here. Always present.

The FEMALE/FEMININE is the energy within the home. It makes it a nice place to be, a place that is nurturing.

Ever been in a single guys apartment? There's a mattress, maybe a desk... MAYBE 1 picture on the wall. Its simple.

When a woman is involved, its nice. There's nice couches, a blanket, some decorations.

We need both.

But this blog is specifically to make it clear - this is what a man is - how I see it and for all to see.

There is one bonus step I'll address...

It's called the 'Rite of Passage'

In cultures around the world, forever - there has been known the phrase.

Women grow up, men must be raised up.

Women naturally mature

Men must have some form of decision within them, where they transition from boy to man.

I'm not advocating we need to bring back some Agoge shit from 300 or a lion hunt in the wild.

It's simple, its a declaration to walk the journey to life, to live the principles and to welcome the test that comes with it. Life is intelligent, we ARE life. 

Life has a way of testing us - as ourselves. Sounds 'meta' but its not. Its us as life proving to ourselves we are the living words we say we are. We are sentenced by our sentences. 

So the 'rite of passage' is this undertaking, where one can thus 'visibly live the principles' and be an effective member of our world as their role as a man.

I will elaborate more tomorrow

Bonus - the rite of passage (will elaborate more tomorrow)

Day 65 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man (Part 2)

Continued from yesterday...

Being a man is to provide and protect - in the best way for ALL

It requires common sense and creativity in the approach

Let's open up the point

I forgive myself that i had accepted and allowed myself to believe that being a man means I can harm and kill anything that is a threat, and that is the ultimate trump card by which I can win and prove I am a man

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe that being a man means I am stoic, and show no emotion, only stability in my expression and never show any weakness whatsoever

Within this I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that it does make sense to be CLEAR when I do share and when I do speak, it doesn't mean I need to 'pretend' I have it all figured out, but its a blend of humility in the obvious fact that I am a human walking my journey to be the best I can be, and so of course there will be steps along the way where I fail, trip and then have to figure it out, and also though, to be a leader, to trust myself and to guide the way in the best way I see how and to build systems around this so that together we can learn faster, and ensure we have outcomes that are best for all 

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to belive that a man must look a certain way

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe that a man must speak in a certain way

I forgive myself that I had not accepted and allowed myself to realize that being a man - and the human male design, is such that in its best expression is one that is able to focus, to step up and get shit done, and to act in a way that allows for oneself AND for all, to be provided for and protected. This requires strength, wisdom and willingness to take the necessary actions

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe that provide means to just care about myself and my bloodline only, where I provide resources to ensure my self, my partner, my kids and my immediate tribe are cared for only... while this does make sense that this obviously needs to be taken care of, only stopping here creates the stupid tribal mentality that has locked us into a techno-feudal state currently in the dynamic of human history, where we are tribes built on identity, enslaving ourselves into a technocratic super system that mines our energy and wellbeing for profit in the hands of a few individuals and corporations - and a REAL man will see this and step up, and do their best to figure out how the hell we can change this system, and dedicate themselves to creating a BETTER solution every single day instead of accepting this mediocre version of reality we have trapped ourselves into

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to believe that providing is JUST about money and resources, instead of seeing that providing is also about being present, supporting people, taking the time to invest my focus into the right points in the system of change, so that I can push points and move people forward, and to also have the self awareness to see where I am stuck, and to ask for help - Providing is more than resources, it is the intentional use of my attention and others attention so we can collectively change our agreements, our standards and thus act in a way where self-responsibility is fully undertaken and thus we can hold a new system in place where the outcomes are one that honors life and ensures everyone has their needs covered, and the education needed to go beyond just basic human survival and actually create the coolest reality possible - as a man I am the structure to help hold this in place so we can change the world, one person, one system at a time

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the word protector has been abused in our society, glorifying the military and violent aspects of it - instead of realizing that a protector is an educated man, who knows how to play the game of the system, understands the implications that we are in a reality where there is abuse, where there are unstable adults and there is a need to have common sense and not just trust any random stranger, yet within this to not live in fear rather to be proactive and focus on what is worthwhile to focus on. For example I could spend 5 hours a day training how to use my guns, how to win in a fist fight, so that if i'm at the mall and someone attacks me I could theoretically win. I could waste my entire life training for that and thus co-creating that... OR I could dedicate my time every day to educate myself and educate others, to build our vocabulary to actually change our way of seeing, to put people into place where they can take responsibility for systems and processes to ensure that our kids are being raised in a way where they don't want to abuse people, where they actually CONSIDER what is best for all.. So that me as a man as a protector, I am part of the transition team. Going from a system slave, to a leader in the system, so eventually we can have a system where we don't need leaders, we just need self-leaders, ones able to work together in equality to make decisions and create outcomes that honor all life

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to glorify men in the system who I think look bad ass, or they act in a certain way or make a certain amount of money, and to think 'wow they are so skilled I want to be like them' yet not seeing all the fortune they made on the backs of an unequal system. Take Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk for example - one could say 'wow those men have really figured out how to crush it, make billions and create 'world changing technology' yet the fact is, Jeff Bezos has millions of people he is responsible for, and ultimately is automating the majority of them with robots. He HAS to - he is playing the game in the system. If he doesn't, someone else will. The old system is a lose-lose. A real man will now SEE this, not go into pity over how fucked it is. Rather just breathe and step the fuck up and say - I will be part of the solution. And then honestly get involved in it. Not just 'be aware' its a problem. But actually MAN UP and be part of the change

I forgive myself that i had accepted and allowed myself to not realize that my actions I take every day have an impact on the people around me, the actions I take AND the actions I leave undone. And this accumulates in my life. Will I be proud of the man I become? Or will I have regret?
I know which decision I have made.

I realize the world needs a entire new level of MAN stepping forth

I realize there is already a group of us doing this, and our group is figuring out how to get extremely effective at this

I realize our kids are going to be a key part of the system change

I realize that education and changing vocabulary at the unconscious level -  is the most powerful tool of human evolution

I realize that as a man my role is to provide and protect life - and to share this vision and express myself to the best of my ability every day

I commit myself to show what's possible for men

I commit myself to challenge men when they have no purpose, or a detrimental purpose, to be that influence in their life to call them up to their highest potential

I commit myself to stand in the shoes of all people and things, to not hate the people who play the game and profit off abuse, as hate is not a solution, rather to create solutions where the new system we build makes the old one obsolete

I commit myself to be an example of what the best version of a man can be, and to welcome every step along the way as this is what I was born to do