Day 34 - Love is Kindness

Day 34 - Love is Kindness 

Note - Each of these blogs can be read individually, or in order. Its suggested to read them out loud, it will have 1000x the benefit.

In my relationships... am I nice or am I kind?

The programming I was exposed to as a child led me to believe that being loving means being NICE.

But over time I learned that the word nice literally comes from the etymology of the word 'stupid' or to 'not know'

Later on I learned that NICE and KIND are not the same thing.

Nice implies 'not knowing' and 'not saying' what needs to be said

KIND is saying what needs to be said - yet done in a way that its actually received

So as I'm unpacking the two pillars of the system of Relationships/Love and Money... the FIRST one is to clarify how an effective relationship is build, and its on TRUTH from KINDNESS

I forgive myself that I had accepted and allowed myself to desire to be 'nice' in my relationships

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that niceness in relationships is based on a fear of losing the other, so I am 'nice' and 'not knowing' meaning I am ignorant to the TRUTH. This is a recipe for disaster

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that within the principle of 'give as I would like to receive' I want someone to be KIND with me, not nice

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to miss the moments that are presented where I CAN be kind, and really show love in my relationships, and to then delay the moment for the feedback thus time-looping

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that being kind requires EFFECTIVELY communicating. Its not just 'calling out' someone to call out, its calling out in a way where the other actually accepts the feedback

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to build my relationships with unclear agreements as to what its about

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to base my relationships on denial, not seeing what is here and thus living in a delusion

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize the simplicity of the change, that will support all of my relationships to improve, is living the decision that LOVE is KINDNESS, speaking what needs to be said, and building on what is REAL

I realize that a relationship built on anything but kindness, is setup for limitation by its very beginning

I realize that authenticity and integrity in relationships comes from the agreement to have an effective relationship based on reality

I realize that the best relationships emerge from clear agreements and shared principle

I realize that just as I want to grow and I'm open to feedback, others are also, and this can be the structure of the new world where we have integrity amongst ourselves and others to say what needs to be said, and to collaborate for real

I commit myself to be kind to my self through effective self awareness and self perfection through self forgiveness and living my commitments to how I know I CAN live

I commit myself to be kind to my significant other, to hold them to their highest standard as I would like to be held to mine

I commit myself to develop my ability to give effective feedback, in a way the other person hears it and then is supported to change their behavior

I commit myself to be an example of the best relationship, the best love, the best living of kindness, and to do this each day as I know it will create a cumulative effect over time

I commit myself to show that love IS kindness

I commit myself to embrace kindness as who I am, being a source for realness in every relationship I am part of